One of the most common
conversations I remember having with various exes is the one they start by
calling me a sexist. I'm sure you've encountered this too as it's one all males face when we stare just a little too long at the female at the bar wearing
Daisy Dukes.
We're sexist pigs because
we're attracted to, well, attractive women.
It doesn't matter that when
you first meet someone, all you have to go on is looks. Oh, sure, after you
know someone for a little time you begin to know about their habits, likes,
dislikes, etc. The thing we call personality. But at first, it's just looks.
Since women don't ever make the first move, they can claim that they are not like this (it's their
superiority pose). Men though are pigs because we act on biological urges. We make the first connection based on
how pleasing the female is to the eye. The problem here (besides
what I mentioned about first contact) is that women do not understand the
difference between sexism and sexuality.
Webster’s
defines sexism as: behavior,
conditions, or attitudes that foster stereotypes of social roles based on sex.
Men are not stealing glances
at that cute woman's legs because they believe the female cannot be good at
their job of accountant, it's because we're thinking about how we can get to
the point where we’re running our hands over those shapely legs.
We don't think that the only
thing a woman is good for is for having sex, we're thinking HOW can we get that
woman to HAVE sex.
We’re not stereotyping them
as only good for sex, it's that we are craving them FOR sex.
This doesn't make us sexist
pigs. It makes us sex-crazed pigs. Big difference.
Women don't seem to get this.
For example, they lump us sex-crazed types in to the same group as the GOP politician
or Moral Majority type who say that women should stick to the kitchen.
(photo: Leslie Danovich)
And truth be told, women are
just as bad. How often have you heard some female drool about Justin Timberlake or the Boss or some guy with a set of six-pack abs? Of
course, they won't do anything about it, nor admit that they are basing this
craving on looks (or fame, wealth, etc,). In other words, classic double standard.
They typically will say that
they are just asserting themselves as sexual beings (although they are not
asserting themselves by trying to meet the male) and are not sexist and
thinking that all that the male is good for is sex. Obviously, men who do the
same thing (be assertive) are sexist.
Another classic example of
women not knowing the difference between sexism and sexuality, is in clothing.
Men are attracted to females who wear skimpy or provocative clothing. Women
view this as sexism even though we are not thinking how that woman in the tight
latex pants is incapable of being a successful lawyer. No, we're thinking about
how we can peel off those painted-on latex pants once we get her to the
bedroom.
Women do the same thing all
the time. They cast longing glances at the guy in the $600 Italian suit, but
don't give a hoot about the guy with the Dallas Cowboy sweatshirt. They claim
they are not being sexist by thinking of men as only good for showering them with money. They are being sexual by dreaming of a life with a man who knows
how to dress for public excursions. I should also point out how this relates to
their being just as superficial as men, but I discussed this before, so we'll skip this for now.
